Tips To Help Children Cope

After the September 11 terrorist attacks, children may need help dealing with fears and anxieties they may be feeling. The American Red Cross and the University of Connecticut Cooperative Extension System have offered suggestions to help children cope with the tragedy.

It is important that parents, teachers, and other caring adults do not assume that children do not know what is going on. Adults and children learn about disasters and tragedies shortly after they occur, and live video footage with close-ups and interviews are part of the reports. Children and youth are exposed to the events as soon as they can watch television or interact with others who watch or read the news.

The Red Cross recommends that adults listen to and accept children’s feelings as well as give honest, simple, brief answers to their questions.

It is also important to realize when children have questions and want to talk. Adults should make sure that children understand the answers and their intended meanings.

Both organizations suggested that children should be encouraged to share their feelings. Parents should also share their feelings with their children insofar as they help the child understand the situation without increasing their anxieties. Using music and art might help children open up about their reactions. Be flexible and listen.

Most children will look for reassurance and support when tragic events occur. It is important to let them know that they are safe. Parents should be especially loving and supportive at this time.

Having children and youth get involved is one way to help them cope, especially if they feel like they are doing something to help, such as volunteering or raising money for organizations that are directly helping with the situation.

For more information about helping children cope with tragedy, visit www.PrepareRespondRecover.com/childrensneeds or www.familyinforserv.com/crisis.